(Brooke’s generosity Blog)
It is Mother’s Day. Not every woman is a mother. Many of us have lost our mothers, in one way or another. Not everyone who could, wants to be a mother. I know one family that has two fathers, Dad, and Daddy. I also know a family with two mothers, Mom and Mommy. Mother’s Day is not a happy day for many people. When one third of adults are single, and many families are in many ways part of a new normal that a few generations ago would have seemed a little odd. When we embrace inclusion of all people in a celebration of God’s love being available to all people, it makes it harder to say “Happy Mother’s Day.
I well remember the first Sunday prior to Mother’s Day at Gateway Church in Toronto. We were asked several times what we planned to do in worship on Mother’s Day. It quickly became clear that there was a testing process going on. These women wanted to know if they would be welcome in worship on Mother’s Day.
They had experienced male ministers who spoke at length about the joy and pleasures of motherhood in a way that evoked discomfort to those who had made a choice to be single and childless, and to those who were in relationships and for differing reasons, including infertility, were childless. We made sure that worship was inclusive of all who worshipped God on that Mother’s Day.
It is not true that everyone has a mother.
In a spirit of inclusion for today, I am offering a few words of wisdom gleaned from Anne Lamott.
Anne Lamott says this:
- Mother’s Day celebrates a huge lie about the value of women: that mothers are superior beings, that they have done more with their lives and chosen a more difficult path. Ha! Every woman’s path is difficult, and many mothers were as equipped to raise children as wire monkey mothers.
- Everyone is screwed up, broken, clingy, and scared, even the people who seem to have it more or less together. They are much more like you than you would believe.
- Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.
- There is almost nothing outside of you that will help in any kind of last way, unless you are waiting for an organ. You can’t buy, achieve, or date it. This is the most horrible truth.
- Families; hard, hard, hard, no matter how cherished and astonishing they may also be. At family gatherings where you suddenly feel homicidal or suicidal, remember that in half of all cases, it’s a miracle that this annoying person even lived.
- Earth is Forgiveness School. You might as well start at the dinner table. That way, you can do this work in comfortable pants.
- Jesus would have loved horrible, mealy mouth self-obsessed you, as if you were the only person on earth. But He would hope that you would perhaps pull yourself together just the tiniest, tiniest bit.
May you feel God’s love and welcome today. God’s generosity is for us all. Thanks be to God. Amen.